Are you a pioneer or a settler?
This blog isn’t part of a resolution per se, but the timing worked out as we started with the new year. One month in and we’re still blogging, so we’re doing okay!
Since the beginning of our relationship, we’ve always set goals together. This year we’re working on:
- This blog! 🙂
- Training for a Warrior Dash in August
- Making some financial progress
Our goals this year are all about growing together… but it’s not always easy
One of the hallmark arguments while we were dating started when Clement told me that I’m a settler. He told me that I was settling for being a good student instead of a great student, a good friend instead of a great friend, and so on. He was pushing me to be better and I was NOT happy about it.
In all honesty, I wasn’t living my best life during that time – I was just getting by. While I can’t say I enjoyed the discussion, it has had profound impact on my life. I don’t want to just get by. I want to thrive.
Don’t settle in your marriage
You deserve a happy, thriving marriage! When life gets busy, our marriages tend to take a backseat. You may talk to your spouse all day long, but if you’re only focused on coordinating schedules, talking about kids, and passing need-to-know information back and forth, what you’re really doing is setting the relationship on autopilot.
Break up the routine
One way to break up the routine is to set a big goal and work on it together. Set a goal that benefits both of you. Really dedicate some time to thinking about what you want to accomplish together, talk over your thoughts and options, and work together to make a plan.
We’ve found that working on shared goals gives us something new and exciting to talk about. We find ways to support each other as we’re working together, and of course, it’s fun to celebrate when we finally succeed!
Conversation starters
- What goals do you have for yourself?
- Where do your individual goals line up with your spouse’s goals?
- What areas of your life together would you like to improve?
